When TikTok stops feeling safe

 I don’t get it anymore. TikTok started as a creative space — a place for people to share fun ideas, express themselves, and connect through laughter or art. But lately, it feels like it’s turned into something else entirely. There are now hundreds of so-called “families” — cliques that claim to stand for community, yet spend most of their time tearing others down.

These groups often take it upon themselves to “protect” the app by targeting people they decide are dangerous or harmful. But what happens when their version of justice gets it wrong?

I’m a survivor of domestic violence — abuse I suffered at the hands of my still-legally-married husband. (I’m actively trying to locate him so I can finalize our divorce.) But instead of finding support or understanding, I’ve become the target of online harassment.

People who support my husband — and believe his narrative — have twisted my story, claiming I’m the abuser. They’ve accused me of putting him in jail for attention. Meanwhile, I have the police reports, hospital records, court documents, and photos that tell the real story.

Despite this, he and his supporters continue to spread lies — calling me a pedophile, a rapist, and an unfit mother. It’s not just slander. It’s post-separation abuse and digital harassment.

What hurts most is seeing him online, aligning himself with those “TikTok families” that pretend to fight against bullies and domestic violence — all while he continues to bully and abuse people behind the screen.

I’m trying so hard to heal and move forward. But every time I open the app, every post or rumor drags me backward. It’s exhausting. It’s painful. And it’s proof that sometimes, the loudest voices claiming to fight for justice are the ones causing the most harm.